Friday, January 3, 2020

Resigned to Our Pain by Melinda V. Inman

Meme with 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Resigned to Our Pain

Pain. None of us like it. However, for those of us with chronic pain, it’s a daily fact of life. Every day, we awaken in pain, if we’re able to sleep at all, and we begin our daily battle. We feel horrible every single day.

When human beings hurt deeply, we mention our pain when we require moral support or help finding relief. But, when the pain never ends, we typically quit talking about it, unless the situation is dire.

We don’t want to bore everyone with yet another discussion of our health. We don’t want our lives to consist only of our pain. We want to forget the suffering and ponder the beauty of the winter snow, the tones of the symphony, the preciousness of Christ, the gift of a harmonious family, and the joy and sacred blessing of a newly begun year.

Yet, in our silence, we soon become resigned to the belief that nothing will ever change. We come to feel that there is no solution to the unrelenting pain. We give up seeking for answers that never seem to come to fruition. We lose hope.

Recently, I attended a weekend workshop. During that event, I was surprised to discover that my pain made it impossible for me to sit still and concentrate. Since I work at home alone, I can move about and deal with my pain throughout the day. I’m distracting no one. It’s part of my routine, attended to with no thought.

However, when sitting next to other women at a table all day, the fact that I had to constantly shift in my seat, moving about to deal with my body’s aching joints and muscles, caused me to realize that my pain had worsened. No wonder I’d been experiencing wildly fluctuating emotions and weeping.

My doctor agreed. She proposed a non-opioid prescription painkiller, the only kind I would consider. I’d forgotten there were options. For years, I’ve been using my own pain management techniques—physical therapy, exercise, posture, nutrition, positive focus, ancient medicinal oils, and over-the-counter pain relief.

Yet, the pain continued beneath the surface, ever-present. The fact that there were options was like new information. I’d completely forgotten that these tools even existed. In my resignation, I had lost hope. I had given up.

Writer, our readers are often in this same place emotionally and/or spiritually. Ignoring basic needs of the heart, thinking there are no solutions, results in hopelessness.

All of us sometimes feel resigned to our lots, trudging through our own cheerless January, believing it must simply be endured. We feel nothing can be done about our bleak future. We’re sad, lonely, discouraged, and uncertain. We’ve forgotten there are options, possibilities, and solutions.

We’re in need of encouragement. We may have given up completely. If no one ever comes alongside, offering the comfort that is received in Christ Jesus, then we have no comfort at all.

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NIV).

This is where our writing comes in. In the hope of encouraging others, write openly and honestly. Share the story of rebirth, awakening to a new life in Christ with a future and a hope. Write about the gradual ups and downs of growth, the blessings, and yet the shortcomings we experience in this transformed life. Write the bones.

When we’re real, our readers can identify. They can find the remedy.

We need to truly see the people around us, to peer into the depths, beyond the external facade, to discern their needs—needs they may have squelched and ignored, thinking there are no answers.

We need to see their hopelessness. When we do, when we’re moved by compassion, we can write from the heart, offering the needed prescription.

Write to the need. It most certainly exists.

Write about the gradual ups and downs of growth, the blessings, and yet the shortcomings we experience in this transformed life. Write the bones. #SeriouslyWrite #Encouragement via @MelindaVInman
Write from the heart, offering the needed prescription. Write to the need. It most certainly exists. #encouragement #ChristianLife #ChronicPain #WritingCommunity #SeriouslyWrite via @MelindaVInman

The Shadows Come
The Shadows Come

Sequel to No Longer Alone
(WW1 Based on a True Story)

Germany threatens all of Europe. Millions have died. President Woodrow Wilson makes the declaration that the United States must enter the Great War to rescue our allies. Congress approves. Our story begins. In America’s heartland, everyone hunkers down to provide food for the world and resources for the war effort. A draft is necessary, and all young men must register. One by one, these are called to war. With this threat looming, Prentis and Avery raise the necessary horsepower, cultivate the needed crops, and contribute their labors to the Red Cross.

But crises at home, an insidious busybody, and one after another called up to fight in Europe bring the greatest dangers they’ve ever faced together. Then there’s the influenza pandemic. Will they survive the war abroad and the war being waged at home, threatening their love and their lives? Will their loved ones make it home again?

Melinda V Inman, Author of Refuge; Fallen; and No Longer Alone
Raised on the Oklahoma plains in a storytelling family, Melinda Viergever Inman now spins tales from her writer's cave in the coastal South. Her faith-filled fiction illustrates our human story, wrestling with our brokenness and the storms that wreak havoc in our lives.


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  1. Melinda, my mom lived in chronic pain. She hurt every single day. Strongest woman I knew. I'm so sorry you have to go through that. Thankful you found options.

    I love what you said, "When we’re real, our readers can identify. They can find the remedy."

    So true and real resonates with readers. Thanks for the reminder.

    1. Thanks for telling me about your inspirational mother. What a woman! Real is necessary. If we’re not real, we reach nobody with our words. We waste our time, talent, and energy. Honest writing reaches the reader. Thanks for adding your words to this. discussion.

  2. Melinda, I can't imagine living in chronic pain. Especially since I have a low threshold for it. Anytime my back is out or when I had wrist problems, it's hard for me to manage pain. Funny now, but wasn't then, my husband used to tell people, "If Karen can have a baby, anybody can!" And I know he was right in some ways. So thank you for this great analogy to writing, knowing our readers deal with pain on various levels. Which makes this powerful, "Ignoring basic needs of the heart, thinking there are no solutions, results in hopelessness." When we bleed on the page, admit our pain and heartache, it not only brings a release to our soul and helps the healing process, but it helps others. That's why I've always said 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 makes us "Comfort Ambassadors."

    1. We definitely have been commissioned as Comfort Ambassadors! We can’t keep our mouths shut. We can’t keep the message locked inside. The mission of encouraging others is the entire point of the suffering. We suffer. We yield to the Lord and receive his comfort. We grow. We progress enough that even though we suffer, our eyes are on fixed on helping others. And then, we offer the lessons and the comforts we have received in our suffering, thus uplifting the other downcast fellow traveler on life’s journey. Thank you for adding to the discussion, Karen.

  3. What a powerful message! Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Melissa! Thanks for commenting.

  4. Thanks for stopping by Melissa. You’re welcome.

  5. Yes - we need to be real. That's when we're serving our readers the best way possible!

    I admire you, Melinda! You accomplish so much while dealing with health challenges. You encourage me to do more - be better. Hugs!

    1. That’s so sweet of you to say, Dawn! All of us bring our stories, our strengths, and our challenges to the table, uplifting one another. Your editing skills and editor’s comments were a great encouragement to me, on my latest novel The Shadows Come, no matter whether you insisted a revision was needed or merely retained silent—the other way to let me know. Plus, you kept me laughing as you questioned me on the types of pie in each scene. Who leaves that detail out! 🤷🏻‍♀️ Thanks for your kind words today!

  6. Although I do not live in physical chronic pain, I lived for years with chronic emotional pain from raising a child in constant crisis. I never knew that those years of being a hurting parent and feeling like a failure would cause me to write about my life. Because of this, I launched my first devotional focused on parents and their emotional turbulence in their life. Today, I am a vessel for God to use to minister to other parents. So thank you. You are ministering to those who have more than just a physical ailment by pointing them to Christ.

    1. Your story illustrates the point of this post perfectly. We can’t see the pain of another. We don’t know what’s going on in their lives, but when we write transparently and share the encouragement we have found in Christ, we can comfort others with the same comfort that we’ve received from God. Thank you for sharing your life example, Anchor of Promise!

  7. AMEN to this: "When we’re real, our readers can identify." Thank you for being authentic and open.

  8. Such a heart felt and powerful post, thank you for sharing "You" with all of us Sister, praying for you and thankful that you share your gift of writing with all of us. God Bless

  9. As someone married to a person who lives in constant pain, it's easy to become numb to their needs. Thanks for the timely reminder Melinda!

  10. Melinda, in your pain you are encouraging and strong, and so in tune with what is important. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, but how helpful your perspective is both for those who struggle and for those who offer relief. Your experience and theology is rich, and we are beneficiaries. Thank you for your endurance and sacrifice.


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