Friday, April 11, 2014

Turning Your Life Conflicts into Your Story Conflicts by Katy Lee

Katy Lee

So, your day isn’t going very well. Actually, nothing has gone right. How do you handle it? Today on Seriously Write, author Katy Lee offers tips and encouragement on how to use negative experiences to enhance your writing. ~ Dawn

Turning Your Life Conflicts into Your Story Conflicts 
by Katy Lee

Life is full of unexpected experiences that can halt your writing.  A disagreement with a family member, a fender-bender in the grocery store parking lot.  Or perhaps the experience is positive, like a contest win where all you want to do is celebrate.  In these states of mind we may decide to close the computer up and take a break, or decide to vent our anger by cleaning the bathroom.  Our first thought might be that we’re not in the right frame of mind to write, that are focus will be off and so won’t our writing.  But that may not be the case at all.

For example, do you have a villain who is supposed to be angry about something, but his scene is falling flat?  Take advantage of your own anger in the moment to write the scene with that villain using your own deep emotions to make his part more authentic.  Do you write romance?  Things aren’t always sweet as pie for couples, in real life and in your books.  Don’t let a little quarrel with your spouse go unused.  Sit down and write some heart wrenching tension into your stories.  Let your fingers fly while you still have the tension in you.  And what about that contest win you are jumping with glee about?  All feels right in your world at the moment.  Sounds like a great HEA (Happily Ever After) to me.  Get it down on paper while you’re still jubilant.  Imagine your reader feeling that same wondrous feeling as they close your book…and then immediately check out your backlist or mark their calendar for your next release. 

But wait!  There’s more!  All this conflict switching can only help in our personal experiences.  Writing has a way of releasing our first negative reactions—the ones where we want to give a piece of our mind, not bring peace to our minds.  These are the moments where we want to respond with negativity, rather than compassion, mercy, forgiveness, love, peace, goodness…you get the picture.  Writing out the emotion has the power to change our atmospheres for the better.  A win-win for all involved.  When all that passion is poured out on the page rather than on another human being, friendships and marriages can be saved.  Even when you choose to write a happy scene while joy is coursing through you, you’ll be filled with more satisfaction than when you began, because you’ll be writing an emotionally-filled HEA.  And that’s a great reason to celebrate!

Of course, if you would rather use your energy to clean the bathroom, I’m sure that could also save relationships, too. 

Thank you, everyone for joining me today.  I do hope you will check out my latest Love Inspired Suspense, GRAVE DANGER, where my heroine, Forensic Anthropologist, Lydia Muir has her patience tried by the local sheriff, Wesley Grant.  Maybe she should take up writing….


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BONES OF CONTENTION: When skeletal remains are found on a small Maine island, forensic anthropologist Lydia Muir is sent to investigate. It's Lydia's job to determine whether the homicide happened long ago—or more recently. Island sheriff Wesley Grant seems sure the murder didn't happen on his watch. But when Lydia uncovers the victim's identity, someone goes to great lengths to get Lydia off the island. Wes vows to protect her, but is the handsome lawman holding something back?

4 1/2 Stars! Fantastic...A Keeper! "Multiple false leads will keep the reader guessing. The action is intense in this character-driven suspense. Fans of the TV show “Bones” will enjoy Lydia's character and her knowledge of the field of forensics."    ~Romantic Times Book Reviews Magazine

As an inspirational romantic-suspense author, Katy Lee writes higher-purpose stories in high-speed worlds. Through her writing, ministry work, and teaching, Katy dedicates her life to sharing tales of love-- from the “greatest love story ever told’, to the sweet romantic tales of falling in love.  Katy and her husband are lifelong New Englanders, and have been known to travel far and wide on a whim with their three adventuresome children.  

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