Candy Arrington |
During the last years of my mother's life, I served as her
caregiver. Ironically, I was writing a book on caring for aging parents at the
time. While the responsibilities of caregiving often caused distractions that compromised
writing time, in some ways, the difficult circumstances taught me to snatch brief
available writing moments.
Most of us find it difficult to compartmentalize emotional
upheaval. It spills over into every aspect of life. And physical exhaustion, which
is constant for most caregivers or the chronically ill, robs mental processes.
So how can you continue to write when distracted by urgent, on-going, or energy-draining
life events?
Inventory writing
accomplishments—Sometimes we lose track of what we've accomplished in the
face of what feels like a total productivity standstill. Reviewing publishing
credits reminds us God is our source of inspiration, encourages dependence on
him, and sparks new ideas. If you wrote this much, this well, before now, you'll
be able to do it again.
Chronicle snippets—Get
in the habit of carrying a small notebook
you can easily access. Sometimes our minds work on writing pursuits even
though we're involved in other activities, including while asleep. When ideas,
book or article titles, themes, sentences, or phrases pop into your mind, write
them in your notebook. Don't try to make sense of them at the time. Just get
them on paper. If you don't have the notebook with you, compose a text message
to yourself and save it, or send a brief email from your phone.
Once, while
my mother was in the hospital, I wrote most of a chapter and didn't remember
until I opened the document weeks later. I almost cried because the deadline was
looming and I thought I hadn't started that chapter yet. When I saw it was
nearly finished, I was overwhelmed by the knowledge that God was writing
through me even though my mind was elsewhere.
Set small, realistic
goals—Often, our biggest writing challenge is a blank computer screen.
Typing even a few sentences primes the pump. Decide to make an outline, write
two paragraphs, or create five bullet points. You'll be surprised how often you
keep going beyond the small goal you set for yourself. Once you meet, or exceed,
your goal, the sense of accomplishment you feel encourages you to move forward.
Realize difficulties
are the catalyst for heart-felt writing—Hardships add new dimensions to
writing. Although not perceived while in the midst of the situation, later
concepts and lessons crystallize. Then writing comes from a deeper place.
Instead of cursing your circumstances, mine them for writing gems. But make
sure your writing edifies readers rather than serving as a forum for whining.
Side-step
discouragement—Discouragement is one of Satan's most effective weapons, but
rest assured, greater seasons of writing productivity lie ahead. Don't succumb
to the thought that you're a writing has-been. Praise God for the gift of words
and ask him to continue to use you and your writing to encourage others.
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About the Author |
When Your Aging Parent Needs Care by Candy Arrington & Kim Atchley |
About Candy Arrington
Candy Arrington's writing provides Biblical insight and practical
support, often on tough topics. Her publishing credits include The Lookout, Encounter, Focus on the Family,
Clubhouse, The Upper Room, The Writer, and Writer's Digest. She is coauthor of Aftershock: Help, Hope, and Healing in the Wake of Suicide (B &
H Publishing Group) and When Your Aging Parent Needs Care: Practical
Help for This Season of Life (Harvest House Publishers). Candy and her husband, Jim, live in Spartanburg, South Carolina,
where she writes about the lessons God is teaching her. www.CandyArrington.com
When Your Aging Parent Needs Care
In
nearly a quarter of households in the US, someone is caring for an aging
parent. What begins as a way to honor those they love becomes, for many, a
confusing and stressful time. This resource of hope provides caregivers with
the support and direction they need to be spiritually, physically, and
emotionally prepared for situations they face day-to-day. Authors Candy
Arrington and Kim Atchley draw from their personal experiences to speak with
compassion and guidance and support those who face the challenges of caring for
a parent.