Friday, November 15, 2013

Embracing Rejection - What You Can Learn by Debbie Lynne Costello

Debbie Lynne Costello
Let’s face it. Rejection comes with this business. My guess is that everyone has experienced it—no matter who they are or how many books they’ve published. So what do we do? How do we handle the feelings that accompany rejection? Debbie Lynne Costello shares what she’s learned. ~ Dawn


Embracing Rejection - What You Can Learn

I often wonder if there is a profession that is more discouraging and in need of as much encouragement as the career writer.  If you’ve been serious about writing for any amount of time you’ve heard the words, Just hang in there. Don’t give up. It’s a tough business, but if you stay with it your day will come.

But waiting for your day is another story! How many times I thought that’s easy for you to say, you have an agent. It’s frustrating when you send query after query out and keep getting rejections or worse–no answer at all! But those people were doing their best to boost my flagging spirits.

It’s all about God’s timing. Now don’t roll your eyes at me. It’s true and as much as we’d all like it on our timing I can assure you that you’ll be happier on God’s. You know before Tamela took me on I thought, if I can only get an agent so I can get my manuscript before publishers I’ll be happy. Well, at the time I was ready to take any agent because my dream agent had rejected me. After about 20 rejections I finally heard what agents were saying thanks to Laurie Alice Eakes. I kept hearing I like your writing, but the time period is a problem. Laurie Alice listened to my moaning long enough and told me if you want to land an agent write what they want.

But…but… give up medieval times? Laurie Alice asked me what I liked about the time period. I love the chivalry, the Scottish men, and castles. Her answer to me was to put those things into a time period that was selling. I did and when I finished my manuscript I pitched it at conference, and this time I landed my dream agent!

I encourage you to listen to what your rejection letters are saying. If you see a pattern it might mean you need to make some changes. I’ve found it’s always best to let the rejection sit for a week or two depending how hard it hits me. Then go back and read it again, this time with an objective mind.

There was one rejection I received from a publisher that took a bit more time. The rejection was a page and a half long. It told me all the things wrong with my manuscript. And believe me there was a lot according to this editor. I was so upset. I set it aside and six months later I pulled it out just for kicks. And guess what? I could see that what this editor said made sense. Now I didn’t agree with everything, but 90% of it I did. And I also realized that she had spent a lot of time giving me valuable feedback.

We become attached to our manuscripts. We pour ourselves into them so hearing the truth is hard. I encourage you to give yourself some time after a rejection. Then, after it doesn’t hurt so much read it again and see if the suggestions will make your manuscript stronger.  And always remember to just hang in there. Don’t give up. It is a tough business, but if you stay with it your day will come.


It’s true. It’s all about God’s timing. Click to tweet.

Listen to what your rejection letters are saying and learn from them. Click to tweet.

Don’t give up. If you stay with it, your day will come. Click to tweet.


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Debbie Lynne Costello is represented by Tamela Hancock Murray of the Steve Laube Agency. She attended Heritage University, where she studied Journalism and worked in the editing department. She has completed five full length novels set in the Charleston, SC and Savannah, GA area in the late 19th century and is now seeking homes for them. She and her husband have four children. They live in upstate South Carolina with their family. In her spare time, she sews, paints, knits, camps (in a fifth wheel) and plays with the grandbabies.

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