Showing posts with label chronic illness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label chronic illness. Show all posts

Friday, February 5, 2016

The Detour by Melinda Viergever Inman


Melinda Viergever Inman

The Detour

There I was, cruising down the writing road, pursuing my dream. Life was grand! I was a blogger; I had some pieces published. Of several drafted novels, my first was on its way to publication. I was one happy woman! At last I was a professional writer.

But during the publishing process, I hit a bump in the road. My husband’s mother declined during a long illness and died. We were weary and saddened, but after her memorial service, we returned to work.

By the deadline, I submitted my novel to my publisher, and then I started into my next project. But I gradually recognized that I was wiped out. I’d never felt this way before—thoroughly depleted, incapable of working. Clearly, I needed a vacation.

It was time for a detour. I scheduled a week off.

My throat hurt; my body ached. My energy was gone. The week turned into two and then three. In our hammock, I read fiction by other authors. I spent entire days in bed. Unable to function, I blogged from a horizontal position.

Next I had to drop all my outside duties, positions, and even my seminary track. Finally, after six weeks of this unscheduled detour, I headed to the doctor, unwittingly whirling a revolving door leading to few answers and many tests. My novel was published during this crushing fatigue and malaise.

More than a year passed. While working flat on my back, I marketed my first novel, ran a successful Kickstarter campaign, and prepped my second novel. But after passing it to my editor, I felt worse than ever, and now my parents were sick.

The writing road was supposed to be a smooth highway of bliss and tranquility.

I would bask in the glow of hundreds of reviews. My publisher would assign me a marketing team, so I could write and enjoy the profit from my labors. The many stories in my head would be printed. With the profits, I’d take my entire family on a long vacation.

But that didn’t happen. 

Instead, the detour narrowed to a perilous track through unmarked wilds. Recently, I received a diagnosis. My immune system is damaged. I have a rare autoimmune disorder. There’s no cure, only treatment to halt the progress.

When I learned the number of years and severity of treatment required, I knew this wasn’t a detour. This is now my life.

How did this happen? I write for the Lord. My stories touch hearts and lives. God intervenes with plot ideas, dialogue, and insight, so I can reveal truth about His love seamlessly within the story. I want to get back to that important work.

Like you, I proclaim Christ in my fiction and other writing, strenuously contending “with all the energy Christ so powerfully works in me” (Colossians 1:29).

So why would God allow sickness to touch me? Because He’s sovereign, He’s good, and He knows best what provokes growth in me. He orchestrates everything for my spiritual benefit and the advancement of His Kingdom. 


This isn’t some strange journey taking me off-track from God’s call on my life. This is God’s call on my life. The detour is the road.

I’ve kept trying to get at least one foot back onto the smooth thoroughfare, but the Shepherd has chosen a better route, the road of refinement and greater reliance on Him. It’s an intimate trail. There’s room for two. I’ll trust His leading as I journey through treatment while my next novel awaits publication. I’ll work, as I’m able and He leads.

Many of you travel this road. Creative people—Laura Story, Vaneetha Rendall, Laura Hillenbrand—often journey on this byway. God uses it for our good.

What has the Lord taught you in your “detour”?






Love takes action: The Creator God establishes the cosmos and shapes a man. Adam rises from the dust. Envious, the powerful angel Lucifer despises him. Oblivious to the threat, Adam is captivated by his strong, intuitive wife Eve. In the Garden of Eden, they enjoy abundant food, gorgeous vistas, and intriguing challenges, including their budding love and passion. They have it all!

But Lucifer’s deceptive brilliance tricks them into disobeying God. They eat the one forbidden fruit. Their innocence is shattered. Their unity with one another and with God is destroyed. Death will follow. Lucifer’s jealousy threatens mankind’s tenuous beginning. But God is merciful. What astonishing promise does He make? How will Adam and Eve survive – broken, shattered, and separated from God?



Melinda Viergever Inman was raised in the tornado capital of the U.S. - Wakita, Oklahoma, of "Twister" fame. There her parents met. There her roots were sunk in a storytelling family. During years of relocation, tragedy struck. Wounded and heartbroken, Melinda forsook her roots and ran from herself and from God. A journey of trial and heartache brought her home again. A prodigal now returned to her secure foundation, she writes with passion, illustrating God's love for wounded people as he makes beauty from ashes. Fallen is her second novel, Refuge her first. Melinda shepherds women in church and prison ministry and writes inspirational material on her biweekly blog at http://melindainman.com/blog/ . With her family she is involved with Mission India, rescuing orphans and providing theological and job training for impoverished students— http://rimi.org/.


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Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Juggling Life And The Pursuit Of Dreams by Candee Fick

I've always been fascinated by jugglers, especially those who can take a bite out of an apple while maintaining the blur of flying objects. But despite detailed instructions, I still can't juggle even two balls at the same time. Yet, I am expert at juggling life, including chronic fatigue and a special needs child, and the pursuit of my writing dream.

Here are a few tips for successful juggling.

1. Start small. Most instructions for juggling start with one ball and have you toss it back and forth for hours before ever adding a second ball or thinking about a third.

The same is true with life. I first learned this lesson over ten years ago after being diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome. I could realistically only handle small tasks in short increments, so I gave myself permission to only get a few things done each day until I could eventually add more responsibilities. As a writer trying to juggle creating, editing, critiquing, marketing, and social media, the same principle applies. Consistently write 100 or 200 words a day before trying for bigger goals. Master one social media account before adding another.

2. Expect to drop balls. Even the experts drop things, especially in private when they're rehearsing a new act. Does a juggler quit? No. They just pick it up and start again.

In life and writing, there will be days where supper didn't get thawed out in time or you get a call from the child's teacher or your proposal was rejected. Cry. Groan. Pray. Then pick up the pieces and keep on going. Tomorrow is a new day with fresh mercies from the hand of God.

3. Trust the rhythm. The best juggling acts are those where the performer also keeps up a steady banter with the audience. How? By trusting the rhythm. After hours of practice, their body simply knows where to be in order to handle the cascading balls.

There is power in familiar routines like putting your keys in the same place every day, so take those small steps from point #1 and create habits. For example, by tossing a load into the washer before packing lunches, it is ready for the dryer when I head out with the carpool ... and ready to fold when I return. I take a half hour on Saturday to schedule social media updates for the week and then spend just fifteen minutes a day adding a few new pins, a relevant retweet, and interacting on Facebook. By trusting the routines, I know certain things will get done consistently.

4. Keep your focus on one thing at a time. Watch a juggler's eyes and you'll discover that they focus on one spot directly in front of them as each airborne object flies by. There are balls in each hand, some leaving, and some arriving ... but the juggler focuses on only one ball at a time.

My to-do list gets overwhelming, but once my day gets into motion, I try to focus on one thing at a time. Word counts accumulate during the quiet morning hours while the kids are at school followed by day job tasks once the creative well dwindles. A quick nap, then home, family, and social media after school, and catch-ups once the younger kids are in bed. Like juggling, I focus on the highest priority at the moment.

5. Stay relaxed. A juggler in proper position keeps their arms relaxed, only makes small movements, and certainly does not chase frantically after out-of-control objects. If a routine is falling apart, they stop, take a deep breath, gather their stuff, and then start again.

When my life gets out of control—and with a special needs hormonal teenaged daughter with autistic characteristics, it happens often!—I too can stop, take a deep breath, pray for wisdom, accept God's peace, and then carry on.

What about you? How well do you juggle? What's your secret to keeping multiple projects and responsibilities going at once?

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Candee Fick is a busy football coach's wife and mother to three including one with a rare genetic syndrome. In addition to her day job summarizing asbestos depositions for an industrial hygiene company, she is pursuing her dream of someday writing full-time. While she has self-published a book for parents with special needs kids and several devotionals, she continues to hone her fiction craft. As a member of ACFW, she was the Genesis runner-up in women's fiction in 2009 and a Genesis semi-finalist in 2011.

You can find Candee's blog, Encouragement For The Journey, at www.CandeeFick.com


Making Lemonade: Parents Transforming Special Needs
 When life gives you lemons, how you approach, process, and transform them makes all the difference. Especially for parents facing the sour experiences of raising a child with developmental, behavioral, and/or health needs. Mirroring the steps of a recipe for making lemonade, this book covers the pucker reaction, emotional juicing process, adding sugar, watering down with life, stirring in a pitcher of support, chilling, sipping, and sharing. It incorporates practical strategies from a Christian worldview and the emotional stories of parents, including the author, busy in the kitchen of life.


Tuesday, November 5, 2013

God's Grace and Blessings by Mesu Andrews

After the last ACFW Conference, I had to write a fan letter to a favorite author of mine, Mesu Andrews. Like me, Mesu has chronic health issues, so I told her how much it meant to meet her. Her response to me was so inspiring, I asked if I could share it with you. Here it is, reprinted with her permission. ~ Angie

I love to hear about God's triumphs in other people's lives. And believe me...I see your life as a triumph because you haven't given up. It would be so much easier to give up. I know. Those days when you wake up and want to pull the covers over your head and just stay there... But you don't. You get out of that bed, and you walk around the back yard, and you don't fall down, and you take another step, and you keep going to the doctors, who look at you like you're crazy. Ugh. I know. And you don't give up. It's grace. God's grace. All of it. What a blessing to hear another story confirming His work in another life like my own struggle. I hate that you're going through it, but I love that He's bringing you through it--triumphantly, on your knees. ;)

Continue in the direction He leads, dear one. That's all I can say. I must confess I laughed when you wrote, "...you're a successful author." How odd to think of myself that way! Ha! I still have so much to learn and struggle with the same insecure whispers that have always tried to rob me of God's best. Perhaps "success" for me will come when I can finally rest in Him fully. No more struggling or striving to do more, be more, live better. Perhaps that's when our healing really comes. ;)

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About Mesu Andrews
Mesu Andrews’ deep understanding of and love for God’s Word brings the biblical world alive for her readers. She and her husband, Roy, enjoyed fourteen years of pastoral ministry before moving to the Pacific Northwest to pursue the next step in God’s calling. They enjoy visiting their two married daughters and a growing tribe of grandkids. Their Rottweiler-pitbull, Bouzer, snuggles at Mesu’s feet while she writes, and both enjoy the cozy warmth of a fire on rainy Northwest days. Mesu loves movies, waterfalls, and travel.

Biblical fiction is her favorite genre to read and write. Her first novel, Love Amid the Ashes (Revell, 2011), won the 2012 ECPA Book of the Year in the Debut Author Category. Love’s Sacred Song (Revell, 2012), the Song of Solomon story, received a 4 ½ star rating from RT Reviews. And Love in a Broken Vessel (Revell), the story of Hosea and Gomer, is available now and received a 4 ½ star TOP PICK rating from RT Reviews. The Shadow of Jezebel is scheduled for release in March 2014.

Love In a Broken Vessel
While unfaithful Israel breaks God’s heart, Gomer’s broken spirit tests Hosea’s faith—an epic journey of intimacy, rejection, and betrayal.

Deserted by those who love her and betrayed by the gods she once worshiped, Gomer lives a bitter existence…until one day her childhood friend reappears—Hosea. But is it too late for Gomer? Is her heart too broken to capture even a drop of love? While unfaithful Israel breaks God’s heart, Gomer’s broken spirit tests Hosea’s faith. Can the two find faith in Yahweh’s power to love?

Book Trailer: http://www.youtube.com/embed/nI5Cav_ApPI?rel=0