Wednesday, July 3, 2019

Writers write – right? by Cindy Regnier

Well, yes, and maybe I’m going way out on the pen nub, but I’m going to say writers do something else that may be just as important as their writing. Writers encourage writers.

Writers encourage other writers, which in turn encourages those writers to encourage even more writers. Where would we be if we were in this all by ourselves? I’d venture to say not many of us would be anywhere close to where we are now. As for me, I’d rather have my writing sisters standing by ready to encourage, prod and kick me in the backside if the need arises, than to be standing all alone on top of a successful career with no one to pat my back or keep me grounded.

We all need each other. Everything is figure-out-able on this writing journey, but we can’t do it alone. Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will, so we all need that encouragement from our friends to get us over the humps and through the valleys.

I don’t hear a lot of disagreement going on over what I’ve just said, so let’s take it a step further and look at the other side of the page. How much encouragement do you give to others? Friends, encouragement breeds encouragement in the encourager. That’s a bit of a tongue-twister, but true nevertheless. Perhaps you have been assigned a mountain to show others it can be moved. Maybe you needed a heroine so that’s what you became.

Next time you meet up with a bout of that pesky writer’s block, just look for a way to lift someone else up. You’ll find that it’s usually enough to lift yourself too. Amazing how that works. Find your tribe and love them hard. Got a critique partner? Be an encourager in the process. Tell the negative committee meeting inside your writer friend’s head to sit down and be quiet.

I don’t say this often enough, but I am so thankful to each and every person who has encouraged me along the way of my writing journey. Believe me, I know how easy it is to get discouraged, but I also know there are many standing beside me and cheering me onward. They make all the difference. A special thanks to PAWS – you know who you are. None of us would be where we are without each other.

In the words of Martin Luther King Jr, “In the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” Writer community, let’s drown out the silence. Share some ways others have encouraged you or you encourage others, then let’s get out there and encourage!



Writers do something else that may be just as important as their writing. Writers encourage writers. via @cindysregnier #SeriouslyWrite #amwriting #encouragement

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Scribbling in notebooks has been a habit of Cindy Regnier since she was old enough to hold a pencil. Born and raised in Kansas, she writes stories of historical Kansas, especially the Flint Hills area where she spent much of her childhood. Cindy is married to her husband of 36 years, has two grown sons, a son residing in heaven, a beautiful daughter-in-law, and a beautiful daughter-in-law-to-be.

A graduate of Kansas State University with a dual major in Agriculture and Business, Cindy works for her local school district as clerk of the board of education and is active in her church and community. Her experiences with the Flint Hills setting, her natural love for history, farming and animals, along with her interest in genealogical research give her the background and passion to write heart-fluttering historical romance.

18 comments:

  1. Hi Cindy! This-Find your tribe and love them hard.-so true! When your tribe is behind you, nothing stands in your way. Your journey has encouraged me and others. Happy writing!

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  2. Sally, YOU are an important part of my tribe! Thanks for being there. And happy writing back at you! You go girl!

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  3. AMEN!! Awesome post, my sweet friend, and sooo very true!! I cannot imagine being on this writing journey all alone---it's a depressing thought. In fact, way before I was published, I told my family that even if I never became published, the friends I've met have made the journey all worthwhile! I love my friends!! (Of which YOU are one!)

    I also want to say that I've gotten waaay behind on my reading, but sat up until the wee hours reading Mail Order Refuge, and WOW!! I honestly love this story, and cannot wait to read many more Cindy Regnier books!! (I only wish I was a faster reader, LOL).

    Thank you again for sharing this!!
    Hugs, Patti Jo

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    1. Patti Jo - you are at the top of the list when it comes to being an encourager. See all that wonderful encouraging you did in one brief little comment? I'm so glad you enjoyed MOR. I'm waiting for the next coastal romance by my friend Patti Jo. I love the way those sweet romances make me feel! Hugs back at you, my friend!

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  4. Hi Cindy! So happy to see you visiting Seriously Write. I know I love my writing buds and am so thankful for them. Being part of a group makes me want to do better and to do more.

    Love your reminder to encourage others!

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    1. Terri! I love my writing buds too (including you sweet friend!) Your smile (even in a FB photo) encourages me more than you know. We may not have it all together but together we have it all. Know what I mean?

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  5. I am blessed with a wonderful Word Weavers Charleston group. Also, a wonderful author mentor who encourages me and lifts me up in prayer. :-)

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    1. Melissa, that is so wonderful to be part of a group like that. Cherish those relationships and keep that bond strong. Your friends will take you places we can't go alone.

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  6. Yes, it's so important to encourage others - and that's what Seriously Write is all about! I'm so grateful for my writer friends who have been there and have helped me through moments when I've felt discouraged.

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    1. How right you are! Seriously Write is a great place to be and I'm so glad you're here today, Dawn. We all get discouraged at times and having a place like this to go for a pick-me-up is such a blessing!

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  7. Cindy, Wow, wow, wow! Yes! We need each other for sure. Your words are a powerful statement, "Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will." Amen to that sister. May we continue to lift each other up and share in the joys, trials, and journey that writing brings. Much love to you and congratulations on your debut!! So proud of you!

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  8. Hi Sharee. Thanks for all your encouragement as well as the prods and pushes. Much love back to you and congratulations to you too! Can't wait to read those 3 books you've got in the works! Proud of you!

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  9. So glad to see you here today, Cindy.

    I love this post. We don't see this nearly enough. There are so many encouraging people that make this journey so much easier. You are definitely one of those people!

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    1. Connie - you once encouraged me by telling me to sing Bad to the Bone to myself in the mirror. It not only worked - it made me lol. That's a gift, my friend. Thanks for being one of my encouragers!

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  10. Love this post, Cindy. So much truth. You've definitely been an encouragement to me, and countless others I'm sure. Thank you! Btw, I loved your book - was sad to see it end. Looking forward to the next one!

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    1. Thanks Laura. That encouragement flows both ways, sweet friend. So glad you enjoyed MOR. It was a fun one to write!

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  11. Cindy, I loved this post. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. So often we hear as writers that we need to develop a thick skin when I think part of what helps us with getting through is having that writer network. Thanks for sharing this!

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    1. Hi Tanya. Yep that thick skin is never quite thick enough and that's when we lean on each other. You, my sweet friend, are a GREAT encourager!

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