Friday, June 2, 2017

Leaving Margin by Melinda Viergever Inman


Melinda Viergever Inman

Leaving Margin

With more than twelve million books on Amazon and a continual barrage of tips from experts about the ever-changing marketplace, we often pack our lives too full. We're constantly drafting, editing, designing, marketing, pitching, polishing, and readjusting our entrepreneurial efforts.

We're rising at 4:30 a.m. to write before waking the children, getting them off to school, and then heading to work. Insert a packed homeschool schedule into that scenario, if that is your norm. We're working past 11:00 p.m. We start all over again the next day.

We're also completing a marketing course, so we can cram in as many promos and giveaways as possible. We're building “real” relationships on social media. We're participating in webinars to learn how to work with our distributors more effectively. We're staring at our computer or phone screens more than at the people in our lives.

When our schedules allow no margin, we sigh with irritation when one of our children calls. We respond with impatience when a small child wakes from a nap “too soon” or when a loved one's needs derail our work plan. We're short with our husbands. We have no energy to deal lovingly and patiently with the typical events of family life.

Day after day, we need everything to go exactly as planned. When it doesn't, we may feel that those we love are “interrupting,” rather than comprising the most central and significant focus of our lives. We have no energy left in our tanks. Our priorities are skewed. This is evidence that something is wrong. Our lifestyle cannot be maintained.

We discover this when catastrophe hits. The bump in the usual schedule can be anything: typical family events, a broken arm, a long-term illness, an accident, loss of our vehicle for a time, a beloved grandparent passing, a friend or child who needs focused attention. This is life. These things happen.

As I encountered this recently, I was reminded of a favorite passage from Psalm 127:

Unless the Lord builds the house,
those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
the watchman stays awake in vain.
It is in vain that you rise up early
and go late to rest,
eating the bread of anxious toil;
for he gives to his beloved sleep.

If I'm working without enough sleep and my schedule is packed, when the disaster comes, and it will come, there is no margin, no extra space that provides reserve energy or time. Then I cannot function at the optimal level when my family needs me, and my body cannot continue for long in this manner. If I've allowed that schedule to be the norm in my life, I've forgotten several important things:


  • God watches over my career as a writer.
  • I labor, but God creates my success—that’s His responsibility.
  • I watch over the market, but the Lord protects and promotes my efforts.
  • God created my body to require margins and rest.
  • God gives sleep. Because He loves me, He guards my interests as I do.
  • It is vanity to neglect what is essential. That lifestyle cannot be maintained.
  • God and family are a higher priority than my work.


Recently, I had to reassess and make some changes back toward balance. I needed to make my margins wider and give more space in my life.

How about you?





Love takes action: The Creator God establishes the cosmos and shapes a man. Adam rises from the dust. Envious, the powerful angel Lucifer despises him. Oblivious to the threat, Adam is captivated by his strong, intuitive wife Eve. In the Garden of Eden, they enjoy abundant food, gorgeous vistas, and intriguing challenges, including their budding love and passion. They have it all!

But Lucifer’s deceptive brilliance tricks them into disobeying God. They eat the one forbidden fruit. Their innocence is shattered. Their unity with one another and with God is destroyed. Death will follow. Lucifer’s jealousy threatens mankind’s tenuous beginning. But God is merciful. What astonishing promise does He make? How will Adam and Eve survive—broken, shattered, and separated from God?



Melinda Viergever Inman was raised in a storytelling family. There her roots were sunk. During years of relocation, tragedy struck. Wounded and heartbroken, Melinda forsook her roots and ran from herself and from God. A journey of trial and heartache brought her home again. A prodigal now returned, she writes with passion, illustrating God's love for wounded people as He makes beauty from ashes. Fallen is her second novel; Refuge, the sequel, is her first. Melinda shepherds women in prison ministry and writes inspirational material at http://melindainman.com/blog/.  With her family she is involved with Mission India/RIMI, rescuing orphans and providing theological and job training for impoverished students.

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7 comments:

  1. Are you looking in my window, Melinda? Reading my mind? :) Yes, margin is so important. Sweet communion with our Creator is necessary to our writer's soul.

    Thank you for the reminder, sweet friend, and have a great weekend!

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    1. I always figure if it's a problem for me and a habitual scenario, then it probably is for the majority as well. I'm glad my words are uplifting. I preach to myself. :)

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    2. my window too.... i sits here at the computer some days trying to beat my stories into submission - meanwhile i can see my kitchen sink from where i sits and the dishes in it have not been washed...
      beautiful lesson, Melinda, thanks for the encouraging words.

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  2. Guilty of the sighing. :) Balance has been my keyword this year. Glad to know I'm not the only one who struggles with it.

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  3. So true, Melinda! Great advice for everyone.

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