Thursday, August 13, 2015

Writing - A Love Hate Relationship by Terri Weldon

Terri Weldon
Over the weekend I looked back on my writing journey. By traditional standards I’ve not been successful. I’ve had one book published and countless rejections. There were times the rejections made me want to quit writing. Last year was an especially trying year for me. I reached a point where I wondered if I’d ever see another book published. I just wanted to give up. Thankfully, with the help of a few good friends I made it past that hurdle.

Oh, I still haven’t gotten another book contract, but I’ve made good strides and I have a different mindset now. Plus, I’ve had some good feedback on my writing. I placed well with two manuscripts I entered in a contest and I had a request for a full on a different manuscript from a publisher. Now all those things may lead to nothing and while they were nice affirmations I’d like to think I’d grown as a Christian and a writer. Maybe if I ignore the pity party I threw when I failed to get a request from a publisher and agent I REALLY REALLY wanted I can say I have. Let me tell you, that was quite a party. Bet you’ve never seen such an awesome pity fest. LOL.

On a whole the part of writing that made me hate it was when my middle sagged so bad it dragged the ground. Or when I was halfway through the book and all out of plot. Or when I needed to write 60 thousand words and the end came at 50 thousand. And let’s not even talk about the critiques that said your heroine is so mean she’d kick a puppy. Ouch! These are the times that make me want to bang my head against the keyboard. Let me interject a quick note here, I’ve worked hard to soften my heroines. They are no longer so mean.

But there are times I love writing! That moment when a new idea zings into my mind or when the research for a series becomes fun and exciting. When the middle of the book doesn’t sag and the glorious moment when I type THE END! Those are moments I love, but nothing is better than when I’ve typed a scene and I go back and reread it later and those are God’s words, not mine. Because I see His mercy in that line, an understanding He can offer, not me.

So while I still have my love hate relationship with writing, I’d have to say these days I love it far more than I hate it.

How about you? Do you have a love hate relationship with writing? What drives you to hate to write? And if you’ve managed to overcome the hate side and it is all love please share how you did it. I’d love to hear your responses so please leave a comment about your experiences.

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Terri is a lead analyst by day and an author by night. She enjoys gardening, reading, and playing in the hand bell choir. One of her favorite pastimes is volunteering as the librarian at her church. It allows her to shop for books and spend someone else’s money! Plus, she has the great joy of introducing people to Christian fiction.

She lives with her family in Oklahoma. Terri has three dogs – a lovable mutt and two adorable Westies.

Terri is a member of ACFW and OCFW, a local chapter of ACFW. Her dream of becoming a published novelist came true in November 2013 when Mistletoe Magic, released from White Rose Publishing. To learn more about Terri visit her website at www.TerriWeldon.com.

12 comments:

  1. I can definitely relate to this right now. I've had days when I wonder why I'm taking precious time away from my family to write when it makes me want to pull my hair out. But right now this is the path God has me on, and in the end, I really do love it.

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    1. Julie - it does get really tough when we feel like we're taking time from loved ones to write. I went through that this summer.

      Like you, I love it and feel compelled to keep going.

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  2. Oh yes! I know the love-hate relationship well! Part of it stemmed from trying to follow the rules and publisher guidelines. I took that off the table and re-evaluated my goals and I'm now a Happy Writer! Good post, Terri. What would we do without friends to help and encourage us!

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    1. Great idea, Jess! Write what you love. I'm glad you enjoyed the post.

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  3. I've been there, Terri. Sometimes, writing is torture. Sometimes, it's bliss. Most days, it's somewhere in between. But like you, I can't not write, no matter how hard it is. I'm glad you didn't quit, Terri. Your books are too good not to be published.

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    1. Thanks Robin and thanks for being one of the friends who talks me off the writing ledge.

      I agree, most days it is somewhere in between.

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  4. Great post Terri! Sometimes what we love the most we also hate! But if God has given you the desire to write he will guide you on your journey.

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  5. Thanks! That's what I think as well. So even when this journey is hard, it's worth it.

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  6. You've worked hard this year and look how far you've come. I know good news, whether traditional, or as a result of that "new mind set", is just around the corner!

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    1. Thanks Sharon, you're another of those friends I could make it without. I'm excited about the plans God has for me.

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  7. Amen! I hear ya, Terri! But I'm so glad you didn't give up. You're a gifted writer. Don't let rejections beat you down! Listen to Your Father. You're incredible and you have a story to tell because He gave it to you.

    My story echoes Jess's. I spent a few months reevaluating my goals and what it'll take to get there, and now I'm in a much better place. :)
    Thanks for sharing your heart, Terri.

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    1. Dora, I think my problem was wanting my plans to be God's plans. Thank you for the encouragement.

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